1 question to flip you from stuck and spinning to calmly problem-solving
Here’s one thing I know is true—
You already know how to solve your problems.
You are a highly insightful, incredibly hardworking, genius-level problem-solver ALREADY.
Just look at the results you’ve already created in your life.
So when you find yourself stuck and spinning and feeling frantic and like you don’t know what to do…
You don’t need a coach to give you “the answer.”
You need a coach to help you notice that you’ve fallen OUT of your Effective Problem-Solving Mental Mode and help you get back in it and STAY in it.
So here’s one question to help you snap back into Effective Problem-Solving Mode in an instant:
If you already had what you want, how would you handle the situation in front of you?
If you had already been promoted, how would you handle this meeting?
If you already had the credibility you want in the organization, how would you communicate to your colleagues?
If you’d already had a successful launch, how would you plan this launch?
If you were already financially secure, how would you manage your finances?
If you already weighed how much you want to weigh, how would you handle the holiday party?
Notice how you feel when you step into this hypothetical, even for a moment.
For me, my shoulders drop, the tension in my chest eases, and I feel like I can see clearly again.
And new ideas start occurring to me.
I get a completely different, calm and secure perspective on the situation.
And an answer bubbles up in my mind. “Of course. I would do this.”
And that’s all you need to get started.
Keep asking yourself this question every time your brain goes into Frantic Scrambling Mode.
This isn’t a one-and-done thing. It is a practice.
Your brain will go back to feeling frantic, again and again.
And you’ll have ask it this question and bring it back into Calm Problem-Solving Mode, again and again.
Do enough reps, and the habit becomes automated — just like any other habit.
And here’s the fundamental truth that this practice reveals…
You don’t need to change your situation in order to feel better.
You need to feel better in order to change your situation.
The problem-solving you do when you’re feeling frantic and desperate and behind and not-good-enough is not effective problem-solving.
It doesn’t get you the best results. You’re likely to be reactive and short-sighted rather than calm and thoughtful.
And it’s not sustainable in the long run. You can’t feel that crappy all the time — at some point, you will burn out.
You don’t need to solve the problem in order to stop feeling frantic and behind and not-good-enough.
You need to stop feeling frantic and behind and not-good-enough in order to solve the problem.
And this is exactly what coaching teaches you how to do.
Coaching helps you notice when you’ve slipped into an unhelpful Mental Mode.
And it helps you switch back into a more helpful Mental Mode.
And if you can do that, you’re golden.
Because you already know how to solve the problem in front of you.
The version of you that knows exactly what to do is already in your brain.
You just need to learn how to access that version of you consistently, whenever you need it.
So come talk to me about the thing you’re feeling stuck on these days.
Let’s pinpoint the unhelpful Mental Mode your brain has fallen into.
And then let’s put you back into the Mental Mode you need to be in to crack this.
We can do it just once with free anonymized public coaching.
Come get a booster shot of coaching to set you on the right track :)
Or we can work together to make this an established habit in your life.
Let’s talk about working together in my one-on-one coaching program so you can get the structured reps you need to gain total mastery of this skill.
What my clients have to say…
“Everything we talked about was actionable.
It never felt like there was something fuzzy where I walked away and had to sort of wonder how this is ever going to impact my life.
At the end of each session, it was very clear what I was going to go away and do differently the next day.”
—Client | Head of Business Development at MedTech Company
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