Combat your inner critic with bullseye thinking 🎯
If your inner critic is anything like mine, it probably engages in a lot of all-or-nothing thinking.
“Either you’re PERFECT or you’re CRAP.”
“There was one thing you didn’t get done today? LAZY.”
“You thought that meeting went well? Here’s one thing you could have done differently. Now that meeting went TERRIBLY.”
Or you’re on your way home after a party, and your brain does this…
Today, I want to give you a way to combat your inner critic’s all-or-nothing thinking.
Enter… Bullseye thinking 🎯
I want your assessments of yourself to look less like this…
And more like this.
All-or-nothing thinking says:
I got everything done ✅ OR
I got nothing done ❌
Bullseye thinking says:
Center of the circle: I got all the must-do’s done. And maybe even some nice-to-have’s!
Second ring: One must-do was dropped
Third ring: A couple must-do’s were dropped
Fourth ring: Multiple must-do’s were dropped
All-or-nothing thinking says:
That meeting went flawlessly ✅ OR
That meeting was a mess ❌
Bullseye thinking says:
Center of the circle: 90% good meeting, only a few stumbling points
Second ring: 70% good meeting, couple stumbling points slowed us down
Third ring: 50% good meeting, got somewhat derailed though
Fourth ring: Totally off the rails, we should have rescheduled
All-or-nothing thinking says:
I’m perfectly consistent with working out 3 times a week ✅ OR
I’m a lazy slob ❌
Bullseye thinking says:
Center of the circle: Working out 2-3 times a week
Second ring: Working out once a week
Third ring: Taking a walk
Fourth ring: Sitting all day
Notice how even the center of the ring has some range to it.
It’s not one tiny dot you have to hit.
You’ve got some wiggle room even when you’re aiming for the center of the target.
Notice how the scenarios your brain considers “crisis mode” are probably only in the second ring.
The bullseye contains shades of gray that helps your brain calibrate what a REAL crisis looks like.
And notice how the third and fourth rings are probably scenarios you rarely encounter.
So that when you land in the second ring, your brain can put that in context and tell the difference between something that needs a couple tweaks and something that needs a total overhaul.
Recalibrating your brain’s success metrics is a key way to…
• Calm down your inner critic
• Get out of flight-or-flight
• And get back into flow
And it’s just one of the techniques I’ll teach you inside my course & coaching program: Less Stress, More Flow.
Your Automatic Brain is a lot like ChatGPT.
And in my program, I’m going to teach you how to:
• Give it prompts
• Rewire its logic
• And partner WITH it
Until it gives you the outputs that you want.
Join the waitlist today :)
What my clients have to say…
“I have a healthier internal monologue.
And there are moments where I slip back into some of the negative thought cycles I used to be in, and it’s almost like I can hear—
‘Pooja would tell me to stop assuming that everyone thinks I’m annoying.
And Pooja would tell me to advocate for myself, because what’s the worst that could happen?
And Pooja would tell me to take a break and acknowledge that thought, but not get sucked into it and move on with my day.’
There's a second layer now of my internal monologue that is the healthy helper, which I developed from coaching, that just stops me from ever regressing too far into those negative thoughts.”
—Client | Head of Business Development at MedTech Company
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