People’s #1 Fear About Hiring a Coach
Here’s the #1 fear I hear from people when they’re considering whether or not to invest in coaching:
“Pooja, I like you as a person — I’d love to hang out with you for an hour a week.
And your coaching methodology makes a ton of sense — I totally believe that if I could think and feel differently about myself and my circumstances, I would be less stressed day-to-day, more clear on what I want out of life, and more able to go make it happen.
And I see how you can help me learn how to think, feel, and react differently — step by step, tailored to my circumstances and my brain.
But here’s the problem.
I’ve tried so many things in the past, and they all helped temporarily, but none of them have stuck long-term.
Why will this be any different?”
Here’s the exact reason that the things you’ve tried in the past haven’t stuck.
It’s not because you’re uniquely weird and broken and unfixable. You are not the single special snowflake in the world who simply can’t solve their problems.
I promise you, there are people who have started in the exact same place where you are right now (or worse!) and have figured out how to feel better and create the life they want. You can too.
It’s also not because you were trying the “wrong things.”
I think coaching is amazing, efficient, results-oriented, and highly effective.
But the reality is that all methodologies have merit — from breathing exercises to silent retreats to “let’s dig into your childhood” psychotherapy. Everything works.
The only reason that it hasn’t worked for you yet is because you have an implementation problem.
You know how to learn something new, get inspired and fired up, and put it into practice for a few days or few weeks…
But you don’t (yet!) know how to navigate the major implementation roadblocks that life inevitably throws at you over the course of months and years, long after the initial burst of inspiration has worn off.
Your brain may be telling you: I’m bad at implementing things. So why would I waste money on a coach?
But I’m here to tell you:
You just haven’t yet built the SKILL of implementing consistently over the long-term — and making it feel GOOD and FUN (not like a chore).
And that’s exactly why you need a coach.
Here’s what a coach gives you that you haven’t yet figured out how to give yourself:
A coach gives you a consistent backstop.
No matter what happens, you have a weekly checkpoint to pause, reflect, evaluate how things are going, and decide what you want to do differently going forward.
You cannot backslide when you have a coach.
You cannot “fall off the wagon” when you have a coach.
Even if everything is a giant mess and nothing is going as planned — because you have a coach, you are always learning from what’s happening and making progress.
A coach helps you understand WHY you’re not implementing effectively today.
Roadblocks and “falling off track” and losing steam is inevitable.
Nothing is going wrong when this happens.
The problem is that you have a certain reaction to roadblocks that is causing you to throw your hands up and stop problem-solving rather than using this as an opportunity to go even deeper and become even stronger.
And this is not a major, scary character flaw in you as a person.
It’s a simple, tactical process problem. You encounter a roadblock. You think something and feel something. It causes you to act a certain way. Your actions don’t get you the result you want.
This is the exact thing that we will break down so you understand WHY you have an implementation problem today — and realize how simple and solvable it actually is.
A coach helps you build the skill of implementing effectively for the rest of your life.
Implementing something effectively for the long-term is really simple.
Analyze what happened. Develop some guesses for why things didn’t go as planned.
Based on your guesses, pick a couple things to do differently going forward.
Repeat.
That’s it. That’s the whole process.
People don’t struggle with implementation because it’s difficult or complicated.
People struggle with implementation because of the self-defeating thoughts and uncomfortable emotions that come up for them during this process.
And you don’t need more discipline or willpower to push through these thoughts and emotions.
You need to learn how to notice and separate yourself from what’s happening inside you.
And then to change your own internal state to make this process easy, fulfilling, meaningful, and fun.
Once you know how to do that, implementing is really easy.
Now, this is not something I can teach you in a single day.
It’s something you’ll learn over multiple reps in a variety of different situations — until you’ve done it so many times that the process is in your bones.
That’s what you get when you work with a coach.
So come talk to me today :)
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