Sacred Dissatisfaction
I am not a person of peace and stillness.
I am someone who is frequently dissatisfied.
I spend a lot of time feeling slightly anxious, slightly on edge, restless, impatient, and tightly wound up.
This isn’t a comfortable feeling. I’ve spent a lot of time trying to fix it or solve it.
There’s nothing wrong with trying to change how you’re feeling. I talk about changing your thoughts and feelings all the time.
But today, let me give you a different perspective on your background anxious energy.
What if this is not a problem to be fixed?
What if this is sacred dissatisfaction?
What if this isn’t your brain getting inconveniently freaked out by nothing?
What if this is the best part of you — the genius in you — saying:
No. This doesn’t work. Something must be different.
What if that background noise of anxiety doesn’t need to be eliminated?
What if it only needs to be listened to?
And if you’re not sure how to listen to it, this is exactly what we do in coaching.
I know how to use all the coaching tools on myself.
I know how to separate myself from my thoughts and sit with uncomfortable emotions and change my thinking in a way that sticks.
And I still talk to a one-on-one coach every single week.
Why? Because somehow, it’s easier to do all this in conversation with someone else.
Talking to someone else slows your brain down.
It slows your thoughts down from the speed of light to the speed of conversation — so you can actually see what the heck is going on in there.
Talking to someone else helps your brain to articulate itself.
It helps you fully extract what your brain is trying to tell you because your brain has to translate wordless feelings into concrete sentences in order to hold a conversation.
Talking to someone else helps your brain question its own thinking.
How often have you found yourself saying, “You know, now that I actually say that out loud, I’m not sure I agree with it.”?
And all of this is before the coach even says a word.
All of this is achieved merely by the coach holding neutral, loving space for you to think out loud.
And then, when the coach starts talking…
A coach can see your blind spots — they can see in an instant what might have taken years for you to see for yourself.
A coach can recognize your patterns — they can say, “Hey, there are some common themes between this and something we talked about two months ago.”
And a coach can draw from the depth of their experience. A coach spends all day talking to dozens of other people very similar to you.
That problem you’re encountering for the first or third or fifth time?
They’re encountering it for the 50th or the 100th time.
That problem that seems impossibly confusing and intractable to you?
It’s just another day at the office for them. They’ve got the playbook on how to crack it and half a dozen ideas on how to get started.
I want you to learn how to listen to the voice of your own sacred dissatisfaction.
And I want you to do it as easily and with as much fun as possible.
As one of my my former clients told me:
“It's honestly fun. You're working on the most important thing in your life – your goals and your aspirations. And you're doing it in a manner that is not harsh or strict. In fact, it's quite fun. It's like a video game, and you get to gently make progress towards the things that matter.”
Or as another told me:
“I love our laughs. I love that it can be so efficient and professional, and yet I also feel like these sessions are pretty fun, and I really enjoy that.”
So come talk to me, and let’s get started.
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