What my dating life has to do with your career
A few weeks ago, I recorded a podcast episode with the incomparable Lucy Meggeson for her podcast Thrive Solo (formerly named Spinsterhood Reimagined — talk about an attention-grabbing name :D).
Lucy’s body of work focuses on helping single women without children realize that their lives are just as valid, valuable, and meaningful as our “married and mothering” friends.
Not in a way that puts down married life or parenting (both of which are awesome!).
But in a way that elevates singlehood and NOT parenting as equally rich and fulfilling life paths — not a consolation prize, or a waiting room, or a “huh, what went wrong with HER?” situation.
And since I am a single woman who doesn’t want children and who recently stopped dating altogether, her work has helped me a ton!
But what does all this have to do with building your career around flow?
What does my dating life have to do with your career?
✨I think building your personal life around flow takes the exact same skills as building your career around flow.✨
In both cases…
You have to notice your automatic assumptions about what your life is supposed to look like — and realize that those are just made-up assumptions, not set-in-stone facts.
You have to ask yourself: All these assumptions and templates and models that I’ve been given by society… Do they work for me? Do I agree with them? Do they feel right for ME?
You have to sit with the ambiguity of those questions until answers start emerging.
You have to start trying things and doing small experiments when you genuinely don’t have enough data to answer those questions.
And when the answer emerges of what’s truly right for YOU…
You have to generate the courage to trust your instincts, trust yourSELF, and stick with it even when other people don’t get it.
And you have to configure your bespoke life setup to still meet your needs —
Whether that’s making sure your flow-based career still makes as much money as you need…
Or making sure your single, non-parenting life is still full of love, connection, family, and belonging.