You need a remote control for your emotions 🕹️
What emotional channel are you on right now? 📺
What is a problem you’re trying to solve right now?
Maybe you’re trying to figure out how to get everything done today, or what things you should focus on.
Maybe you’re facing a tricky conflict with a colleague, and you’re trying to figure out how to talk to them about it.
Maybe you’re preparing for job interviews and wondering what you can do to ensure you get the job.
Or maybe you’re wondering if you should quit your job, but you’re confused about what your next step would be.
Now, let me ask you a question you’ve probably never asked yourself…
What emotional channel are you on right now, as you try to solve this problem? 📺
Your brain is probably giving you a whole stream of chatter, suggestions, analysis, and next steps about HOW to solve this problem.
What is the emotion that is generating this stream of chatter?
Are you tuned to the fear channel?
The anger channel?
The inadequacy channel?
The secure channel?
The playful channel?
The courageous channel?
The emotional channel that you are tuned to determines the analysis and option set that your brain generates about this problem.
So if you feel stuck…
It’s not that the problem is actually unsolvable.
It’s that you’re tuned to an emotional channel…
That is generating an analysis and option set…
That is keeping you stuck.
We think, “If I solve the problem, that will flip the channel.”
If I get everything done, then I’ll feel on top of things.
If I resolve this conflict, then I’ll feel comfortable again.
If I get the job, then I’ll feel confident.
If I figure out my next career step, then I’ll feel like I know what I’m doing.
The reality is: You have to flip the channel to solve the problem.
If you feel on top of things, you’ll get everything done.
If you feel comfortable again, you’ll resolve this conflict.
If you feel confident, you’ll get the job.
If you feel like you know what you’re doing, you’ll figure out your next career step.
Coaching helps you flip the channel 🔀
That’s what we do in every session.
We understand why your brain has tuned itself to this emotional channel to begin with.
Your brain always has a good reason. We just need to understand what it is.
We have a conversation with your brain to get it to the change the channel.
That’s where I pull out my full bag of tricks — my extensive experience from hundreds of hours of coaching that lets me know exactly where to insert a question or thought suggestion to judo-flip your brain to a new channel.
And we make a plan for you to change the channel live, in your life, when you need it.
Because flipping the channel once in a coaching session is great and all.
But you also need to be able to flip the channel by yourself when I’m not around.
So we make an explicit plan for how you’re going to do that and check in on it the next time we talk.
Over time, coaching gives you a remote control for your emotions 🕹️
So that you can notice right away when you’re on a channel that’s keeping you stuck and stressed out.
(And not waste your time trying to solve the problem from a channel that’s never going to generate a solution.)
And then flip the channel, using all the techniques you’ve learned across all our sessions, so that you can effectively figure out the problem in front of you.
Come flip your channel today with FREE anonymous public coaching.
Or come talk to me about working together in a longer-term coaching package so you can really gain mastery of this skillset 💪🏽
What my clients have to say…
“I have more confidence.
I advocate for myself a lot more at work.
I second guess myself a lot less.
I have healthier relationships with my family, because we talked about how to advocate for boundaries, and how to have a healthy spin on some of the complicated family dynamics that naturally arise.”
—Client | Head of Business Development at MedTech Company
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