Your self-criticism isn't helping you
A person with impostor syndrome saying…
“I don’t want to reflect on all the things I’m doing well.
I don’t want to internalize my accomplishments or my qualifications.
Because I’m afraid that if I do that, it’ll make me arrogant or complacent or lazy.”
That person is no different than a person trying to run a race with a broken leg.
Imagine if you were at the starting line of a race, and you said…
“I don’t want to put my broken leg in a cast. I don’t want it to heal.
I don’t want to use both my strong legs to run this race.
Because I’m afraid that if I did that, I would become lazy or arrogant or complacent about this race.”
That makes no sense at all, right?
Your impostor syndrome, your self-criticism, your self-doubt…
It’s not keeping you sharp.
It’s not motivating you.
It’s not helping you improve.
It’s just hurting you and holding you back
It is a distraction, not an asset.
And if you can take the time to reflect on what’s going well, to look at your wins, to think about all the things you DO bring to the table and all the ways you ARE qualified to be here…
It’s not going to make you arrogant.
It’s not going to make you lazy.
It’s just going to remove the distraction.
It’s going to remove the fearful background noise in your brain.
“Am I good enough? Do I belong here? What do they think of me? Did I do a good job?”
And when that chatter is gone, you can actually FOCUS and get to work on the thing you’re here to do.
Do you know what it takes to build a better relationship with yourself and eliminate your imposter syndrome?
Consistent reps.
Troubleshooting and adjusting when it doesn’t work.
More consistent reps.
That’s it.
It’s a skill and a habit, just like any other.
If you can learn a new language…
If you can learn how to build a model in Excel…
If you can learn how to nail all the lyrics to your favorite song in karaoke…
Then you can learn how to like and believe in yourself.
It’s no different than any other new skill.
So come talk to me, and let’s get started.
What my clients have to say…
“I have a healthier internal monologue. I still have an internal monologue, but it's a positive one.
And there are moments where I slip back into some of the negative thought cycles I used to be in, and it's almost like I can hear—
Pooja would tell me to stop assuming that everyone thinks I'm annoying.
And Pooja would tell me to advocate for myself, because what's the worst that could happen?
And Pooja would tell me to take a break and acknowledge that thought, but not get sucked into it and move on with my day.
There's a second layer now of my internal monologue that is the healthy helper, which I developed from coaching, that just stops me from ever regressing too far into those negative thoughts.”
—Client | Head of Business Development at MedTech Company
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